Help Writing a Sympathy Note in 5 Simple
The Key to Knowing What to Say -
Memories, Laughter and Sharing!
By Terry Swej
Memories are the key for anyone that needs help writing a
sympathy note. When focused on memories, we allow ourselves to
relive the laughter and sharing we had with the dearly
departed. Even though the person is no longer with us
physically, they will always live within us, through the
wonderful memories we have of them.
All life is a transient! Even before birth, when we were simply
a thought in our parents mind, we were transforming. From birth
to death we are constantly transforming from one level to the
next. During our periods of growth we move from infancy to
child to young adult, all the way through to grandparent. Every
step of the way is filled with new wisdom and a new meaning of
what life has in store for us in the current day. Death is no
different; it is simply a transition from form to formless,
a spiritual aspect of our existence. If we allow
ourselves to see this as another step forward, then the
grieving process becomes easier for the loved ones left
Yes, one of the most difficult things for most people to do is
write a sympathy note. The reason for this is that although
people want to be helpful and a source for comfort, they get
hung up on "thinking" about what they want to say. If you
really want to write a sympathy note that will get your
feelings across, and be magical in content, follow these five
Most importantly, stop thinking about what you want to say.
Totally clear your mind; now visualize yourself with the person
that has transitioned out of the body into the spirit
Remember what it felt like during the most cherished times you
spent with that person. Consciously see yourself in that past
moment in time. Get in touch with your feelings and then open
your heart to the way you are feeling.
Simply open yourself up to feelings. Once you are in touch
with your feelings of joy, visualize in your minds eye, the
three best words that describe your feelings. Pretend you are
talking to that person and share what you feel when you are
with them. Describe for them how you feel being with them by
sharing some past significant times together that left
If you are the person that needs help writing a sympathy
note, write your note in the first person so that it has the
best personalized affect. Write exactly as you would speak to
the departed in person.
Start your writing with one of the three words from you
visualization and use the other two within the first paragraph.
Do not think about what you want to say. Write in free-form
style, without thinking. Forget about what sounds good. Simply
write fast for five minutes, no more. Leave the literary critic
out of your writing; you can always edit later if necessary.
Keep you words flowing from the heart, without thinking about
what want to say. Using the three words that best describe how
you feel will make your words
The key to remembrance is embracing the beauty of life's
memories, laughter and sharing, which will always be part